Friday, March 25, 2011

Self Absorbed

Sometimes I get so absorbed in my own grief that I forget that other people have their own cup of pain to drink as well.  
I discovered before our trip that the husband of one of my friends was in the ICU for the H1N1 virus plus a virulent strain of pneumonia.  She hadn't told me what was going on because she didn't want me to be worried or upset over it, having recently lost Vincent.  
As I was talking to her on the phone, I realized that although my cup of pain is different than her cup, we both are drinking it down in vats right now.  
So here’s to hoping that my grief enables me to better empathize with others.  Because sometimes I think my pain is worse than everyone else's  (it is! it is!)  Arggh!!  See what internal issues I have to deal with!?  
And sometime I’ll have to talk about the awesome conference I attended today.  I heard the best sermon ever.  Thanks Rev. Dr.  Brenda Salter McNeil!! (Here's the conference we actually attended - I couldn't find an easily readable bio of hers on their site.) 

And happy Friday everyone!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I think that's entirely natural. I know that I have a tendency to focus on my pain and suffering too. I have to continually ask for His eyes...because they help me to see others.

and I do believe that empathy is a beautiful gift. Sympathy is nice, but knowing that someone can relate to your pain, is somehow more helpful. I know that you will be a blessing to others...but take time to heal. Your pain is real.

Love you and hope you have a great day!